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It's rare to see someone speak out on platforms about arrange marriage. Simply put, divorce is very common. It's a harsh reality, but in the Indian community, divorce gets you "shunned". The author of this article basically says that Indian divorcees are shunned like lepers.
However, this particular marriage is interesting. Both people come from the same caste as I identify myself with.. with one exception. The author's mother moved to India when she was seven, and therefore with a marriage, could offer citizenship to her newlywed husband via marriage. Possession of citizenship allows people who would be traditionally lower-caste to soar up in status.
The article takes a feminist viewpoint that basically call out my culture's chauvinistic ways. It's actually pretty sad, because there are many truths to her points. Men carry out affairs, disregard their women's feelings, and hold double-standards.
Going through a divorce, as an Indian woman, is basically committing social suicide. Chastity is something revered in my culture, and once a woman is divorced, they are very unlikely to remarry, unlike males.
One particular passage really moved me: "My culture teaches us that "boys will be boys" and that our role is to deal with it. A good wife can manage her husband and police herself so as not to displease him or upset the balance"
As a Punjabi, Jatt-Sikh, I can safely say that woman are advancing, while men are falling behind to alcohol abuse and general laziness. Some of her points are a bit brash, but it was a very interesting read for me that hit home.
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